Dear wonderful and precious friends, thank you for the prayers and support after yesterday’s post. I appreciate them more than you know. You guys are so precious to me!
Like I mentioned yesterday, I had my girls over for a sleepover. I’ve been with my girls since they were in 7th-8th grades and now they have just begun their 10th-11th grade years of high school. From time to time over the years I’ve made references to something and then said “well, that’s a story for another time” which has driven some of my girls crazy, haha! So I finally just sat down and wrote it all out. And I shared it with them.
Much of my life I thought my story was one of rejection and pain, but looking back at it now I see how it is a story of God’s redemption and faithful love. And it, my friends, is a beautiful story because of that.
We talked a lot about the lies we hear and how those affected my life as a teen. So I had them each take a dry erase marker and write down the lies they have heard and believed about themselves on the mirror.
“I’m ugly. I’m stupid. I’m not good enough. I’m alone. I’m unwanted. I’m broken. I’m unforgivable. I’m shattered. I’m inadequate. I’m inferior. I’m fat. I’m a disgrace. I’m weak. I can’t change. Yes is the only answer. Broken family = broken life. People pleasing is the only way. Incomplete. Isolated. Not accepted. Not loved. I’m worthless. I’m beyond help. Not worth anyone’s time.” Just take a moment and read that again. That is the way 15-16 year old girls feel about themselves. This is what they are hearing from the world and from those around them. Breaks my heart.
Then we read some scripture and listened to a few songs and I had them write down the TRUTH!
“I’m chosen. I’m accepted. I’m forgiven. I’m loved. I’m worthy. I’m beautiful. I’m HIS. I’m worth it. I’m strong enough. I’m redeemed. I have been made new and different. I will never be the same because I am God’s. God loves me forever and always. God’s love is sufficient in all. God gives power and strength within. I have unsurpassable worth! I’m blameless. I’m pieced together. I’m thought of. I’m engulfed by God’s abundant love. God has a plan for me. I’m precious. I was made for a reason.” Every time I see that mirror, I tear up all over again. You better believe I’m not erasing those beautiful truths anytime soon.
After talking about what God has to say about us, we talked about being an encouragement to each other. And how important it is to BUILD each other up instead of tearing each other down with unkind words and sarcasm. So I had the girls each take a lipstick tube and literally write words of encouragement on each other. Affirming the beauty they see in their friends.