So over the past few years Christopher and I have had several different groups of really good solid friends. But unfortunately at our stage-of-life, people are not often ready to settle into one spot. Which means that we’ve had to learn to say goodbye… a lot. I’m not much of a fan of goodbyes, but that’s a post for another time. Instead I thought I’d give you a quick run-down of the best friends we’ve had since senior year of college until present day!
My prayer group from college. A group of ladies that became some of my best friends over my four years at Harding. We met every week to talk about the week and our highs and lows and then pray together and over each other. Some precious memories. These girls got me through some of the hardest times. The photos on the left are us from our freshman year and the ones on the right are us as seniors!
Our college couple friends! I blogged about our latest reunion just last week! These were truly the best friends we had in college. We had lots of different friend groups over the years we were there, but these were truly the best! Then of course we all graduated college and spread out across the globe.
After we graduated college and I started grad school, we lived on the grad school campus and got to be really close to several of the other couples there. We did EVERYTHING with these guys. Loved our many adventures! Then they all went and finished their grad programs and moved across the country so we had lots of sad goodbyes.😦
Our current group of friends! Truly love these guys. Though, Megan and Brian just moved away last month so that has been really sad.😦 And in a couple of years Abigail will finish grad school so she and Tony might move after that as well. But no thinking about that yet!
Ever since Megan and Brian moved, I’ve been reflecting a lot on friendship. It’s really sad to say goodbye over and over again to different groups of friends, but at the same time I understand that life changes. We grow up. We graduate. We get married. We move away. I’m just looking forward to the day when we all have roots planted in the same spot.
Anyway, back to my reflecting on friendship thing… over the years we’ve had lots of friends, but only a handful of really quality friends (note pictures above). For me, I’ve realized that the girls I have truly counted as my best friends have been the ones who I enjoy spending time with. I know that sounds obvious, but there are lots of people I used to hang around with that were just full of negativity. They were nice enough people, but they were always putting others down to make themselves feel better (lots of insulting other people in a “joking” way to get a laugh, but truly it’s not funny to mock someone else). Anyway, back to the besties: they are the ladies who encourage me to be an even better person. The ones who I laughed with. The ones who I cried with. The ones I really have the best times with. The ones that inspire me.
These recent reflections make me realize that I want to be a better friend. I have worked for a long time to tone down my sarcasm and be more positive and uplifting. I hate hurting people’s feelings so I don’t like that sarcasm comes so naturally to me. I love my friends that are so positive and uplifting all the time so that is really something I work toward as well.