We celebrated Thanksgiving with Christopher’s parents over the weekend and I just have to tell you guys: I love my parents-in-law. I first met them almost exactly 8 years ago when they came to our university to pick Christopher and his brother up for Thanksgiving break. Christopher and I had only been dating a couple of months at this point, but they treated me like one of their own. In the 8 years I have known them, they have never been unkind to me. I’m sure they had their concerns when they first met their son’s the very opinionated 17-year-old girlfriend (who was still dealing with reverse culture shock at this point), but if they did, they never let it show. They were gracious and loving to me always.
My mother-in-law is unbelievably supportive. It doesn’t matter what “it” is… she believes I can do it and even be the best at it! And it’s not just me that she supports so whole heartedly. She is like this with everyone she loves (especially everyone in our family). She is the reason that my husband truly has no fear when it comes to trying new things. He has been raised to believe that he can excel at anything he puts his mind to. And you know what… he has. He amazes me with his determination. And like his mother, Christopher believes I can do anything. Even when I don’t see it. He is my biggest cheerleader. Always. When I feel like I don’t measure up or I’m afraid to try something new, he is by my side, cheering me on.
That very first day I met Christopher’s dad, Tony, he pulled me aside and said, “I have been watching and I see the way my son looks at you. He is falling in love with you. You are good for him, but I want you to promise me to date him for at least 18 months before you agree to marry him. In those 18 months you will really get to know him and see all sides of his personality.” I don’t remember my exact response, but I do remember being surprised and happy and confused and excited all at the same time. At this point, we’d only been together a couple of months and Christopher and I definitely had not said the “I love yous” yet so I was ecstatic to hear that someone who knew Christopher so well could see that he was falling in love with me. Plus I loved knowing that I had his parents’ approval! It doesn’t take long in the same room with my father-in-law to discover that he is hilarious. But in serious moments, he truly gives some of the best advice (like the advice not to rush into marriage at ages 17/18, haha). Many of my husband’s decisions have been based in wisdom shared from his father over the years. I am grateful for the relationship he has with his dad.
As I’ve been writing this I realize that I love how the things I love most about my in-laws are traits that Christopher carries as well. The wisdom and sense of humor from his dad and the constant encouragement from his mom. I am so thankful for my husband’s parents and that they raised their son the way they did because he is truly an amazing man of God. 🙂