We’ve been married seven and a half years. And in those years we have been asked often about kids. I know this bothers some people, but we tend to assume that people are well intentioned and just genuinely interested in our lives when they ask so it doesn’t bother either of us. However, just because it doesn’t bother us doesn’t mean that we’re going to share personal things with every person who asks.
I actually learned this in our second year of marriage. An acquaintance walked up to me and asked if I was pregnant. I stammered a response, “Um… no… why? Do I look pregnant? Did someone say I was?” Later that day I reflected back on the moment and realized what a weird situation it was. What if I had been pregnant, but not ready to tell people? That would put me in a situation where I would either have to lie to the person asking or be honest and tell this person before I even told my own family and friends. I’m not comfortable lying so I came up with a vague, non committal comment that I could make every time someone asks me about kids. I always say, “Oh, you never know…” in a sing-song voice. Because truly, unless we fill you in, you don’t know. 😉 Plus it sends the message of “this is kind of a personal question that I’m not going to answer” without having to say that outright.
My husband, while typically a very honest sort of person, has no problem making up random answers in response to questions about future kids. His responses are all over the place and tend to be pretty hilarious so I enjoy hearing what he comes up with each time someone new asks. Here are a couple of my favorites:
Christopher’s responses to the question “Are you guys going to have kids?”
“Definitely. At least six. All boys.”
“No way. Have you met our spoiled dog? Clearly we aren’t good parents.”
“Only if we can have twins. Can you request that? Is that a thing?”
“Sure! I’m hoping for an even dozen.”
“Oh man, I don’t know… we practice all the time, though…”
“Whenever we figure out how. Do you know how it works? Can you explain it to me?”
Oh that husband of mine, he makes me laugh.
So tell me, do you get asked this question? If so, what is your normal response?