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Oh my heart

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This guy. Oh my heart is so full. I wish I had the words to explain what a blessing he is to me. I am so grateful to get to live life with him.

Next week we celebrate 8 years of marriage and I can just barely believe that it has been eight years since we vowed our lives to each other. We were just kids. But we made a great choice in choosing each other.

I met him 12 years ago this month. He claims we met at a party before school started, but I don’t remember meeting him until a couple of weeks later after a movie on campus. Either way, we were fast friends after that movie.

And that friendship has grown into the most beautiful thing.

I keep writing and deleting. Mostly because I have SO much to say. More than you want to read and much of it too personal to share for a public blog. But the snippets I try to write to sum up this wonderful man aren’t near rich enough to explain my heart. So I’ll just leave it at this: I love him and I am so thankful for every day of life with him by my side.

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Same photo as the one above, but this one isn’t cropped. I love how Oreo is being a creeper in the background. Definitely changes the tone of this photo, ha! But that’s so him. And this is so us. And I love this life we lead. 🙂

Love Rach

Birthday Week!

It’s my birthday week! This Saturday, on July 30th, I’ll be 29-years-old. Twenty nine, you guys. Closing in on thirty. And yet I find that I don’t mind aging. I love the confidence, growth, and wisdom that has come with each year. I love looking back on life and seeing how far I’ve come in so many different ways. Life has had it’s hard moments for sure, but all in all, it has been very sweet to me. It helps that I have the best guy ever to live life with (it’s my birthday week so all of you other happily married ladies can’t argue with me just this once, haha)!

Disclaimer: the photo you are about to view below is kind of risque. Okay, not really. But for us it is. Especially to share on the internet. But we took it last week and I love the sweetness of it so I’m sharing it here today. 🙂

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I was 17 when we started dating. How is it that I blinked and suddenly I’m 29. I’m afraid I’ll blink again and be 60 with a lap full of grandchildren. What an amazing life this is with this precious man. It’s true what they say: time flies when you’re having fun. 🙂

Love Rach

My hands bear the proof

Christopher has had a lot on his plate lately so I decided to show him some love in a very tangible way. We have a normal size front yard, but a huge backyard. And since it’s summer our grass needs to be mowed every week. Which is very time consuming and in the 100 degree heat – exhausting as well. Christopher enjoys yard work so for the 8 years we’ve been married – he’s always done all the mowing. And I’ve happily let him. Which means that it has been at least a decade since I used a lawn mower at all (when I was in college and mowed a yard or two for some elderly people). But I purposed in my heart that I would do this for him. So on Wednesday morning, I did.

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It’s hard to tell the actual size here, but our backyard is massive. Do you see Oreo and Christopher in the corner of the yard? See how far away they are? Also, this is the majority of the backyard, but my phone couldn’t capture it all. There’s more on both sides of the frame.

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It took me three hours (twice as long as it takes him), but I got it done. I was a nasty, sweaty mess by the end of it, but I got it done. Our push mower’s “self propelled” feature doesn’t work, but I got it done. Two days later I still can hardly lift my arms above my head, but I got it done. I have blisters on my hands, but I got it done.

mowing{yes, that is a princess bandaid – don’t judge}

And when he came home on Wednesday night and saw it all – every minute, every ache, and every pain was worth it. 🙂

As a side note, I totally skipped the gym that day and yet I felt like I got a full body work out and my Fitbit logged just under 10k steps that morning alone. So you know, I think it was okay to have my first gym skip day of the year. 😉 I was so glad to be able to bless him this way and show him a tangible “I love you”. But I did point out to him that it would probably be another 8 years of marriage before I mowed again. 😉

Dear Christopher, I love you for always. This week my hands bear the proof. 🙂

When was the last time you mowed a lawn? Anyone do so regularly?

Love Rach

Recent Happenings

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We met our friends’ brand new baby girl this weekend. She’s just 2 days old in the photo above. Her name is Ada Grace and she is way adorable!

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I went to the Rock & Worship Roadshow last week and loved every minute of it. When Michael Tait, lead singer of the Newsboys who used to be part of DC Talk, sang Jesus Freak, I confess that I may have freaked out a little. Read: A LOT. It’s amazing to me that after so many years I still know every single lyric to that song. The rest of the concert was amazing too. From Phil Wickam leading us in worship to Mandisa preaching her heart out to Jeremy Camp, Danny Gokey, Newsboys, and Audio Adrenaline rocking the stage… it was just awesome. Such an incredible night! 🙂

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Christopher was gone for a work trip last week. We really hate having to be apart or travel separately and unfortunately this month is full of that on top of it being busy season for him. Happy Valentine’s month, eh? Ha! It’s okay, though, March is coming! And we make the most of the time we do have right now! 🙂 We took some time on Valentine’s afternoon to just be home, stop everything else, and just be. After so little quality time together this month, it was exactly what we needed. 🙂

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Because we are so aware of how little time we are spending together (at least compared to normal for us), we try and go the extra mile in showing each other that we love and support the other. This is what’s currently written on our mirror courtesy of my husband. 🙂 I kind of love him. 🙂

Did you go out for Valentine’s or stay in or not celebrate at all?

Been to any good concerts or held any cute babies lately?
Love Rach

Recent Happenings: List Style

I have several unrelated things to share, so we’re going bullet point list style today.

* Christopher cut 3″ off my hair. It was his first time to cut hair and he did an awesome job!

* I got Snapchat this past week at the urging of the teen girls I’m volunteering with. I’m rach.vendetti if you want to follow. Or be friends. Or whatever it is that you are on Snapchat. #newbie

* Christopher is in busy season at work so on Saturday I went in to the office and helped him out for a bit.

busy beesThat’s a shot I sent via Snapchat on Saturday morning to one of the teen girls who had SnapChatted me at 11:45am to say she’d just woken up. And that’s the face Christopher made when I told him that while we had been at his office, she had been sleeping in. 😉 Ah, teenage life.

* Went to a Super Bowl Party last night. Spent more time chatting with friends and playing with an adorable Westie pup named Grizz than I did actually watching the game. 😉 Bring on March Madness!

* We celebrated our engagement anniversary with a dinner at Carrabba’s. We tend to prefer local restaurants to chain, but we had a free dinner there. And my oh my am I glad we went. Their chicken marsala is delightful as well as their prosciutto wrapped asparagus with fontina. Um, yes please. We will be making this at home.

asparagus and prosciuttoEven in bad lighting it looks delicious!

* Speaking of our engagement anniversary… it has been 8 years since my best friend asked if I would spend “the rest of forever” with him. 6 short months later we were married. And time has flown.

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I’m thankful for the way that our love has grown stronger with each passing year. Every routine day, each grand adventure, every heartache we face together, and every big triumph… Love has grown. And I am so thankful. 🙂

Love Rach

In honor of 11 years together

As I’m sure many of you saw on Facebook and Instagram, yesterday was the 11th anniversary of the day Christopher and I first started dating. It has been a while since I last posted a video of my ramblings so I thought I’d do one in honor of our anniversary. The first take was 12 minutes long. So I attempted it again. And it was 10 minutes long. So I just edited out some of the excessive rambling. It’s now right around 6 minutes so hopefully that is a little more of a manageable length of time to listen to me being super cheesy. 😉

As always forgive the excessive use of “like” and “um”. I’m not normally quite this bad about it, but I hadn’t taken time to think out what I wanted to say (other than that I wanted to share the pictures). So it’s just a lot of rambling. Thanks for hanging with me. 😉

Do you celebrate small things? 

Have you ever looked back on a conversation from years ago (via chat or text or FB, etc) and found yourself cringing a little bit at how awkward it was? This is a huge reason I am so glad that Facebook wasn’t a thing when I was growing up. Social media is #forever. o.o

Love Rach

The end of the 30 Days

Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiieeee! We’re back! And what a wonderful time we’ve had! Oh friends, I have SO much to share! But before I start recapping our wonderful NYC trip, I want to acknowledge the end of our 30 days. Yesterday was the last day of this 30 day period. It has been absolutely wonderful (with the brief exception of the whole food poisoning thing, that is, ha!).

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It has been so wonderful to just stop and breathe. And just be together. To relax together, to play together, to adventure together. It was exactly what we needed. One of the big things we’ve decided during this time is that we really need to make “us time” a higher priority. Because we spend so much time side-by-side in service, doing house projects, or with social life, we forget that we need time for us to hang out alone with no to-do list. Just us. These 30 days have given us an awesome taste of that and we’re not ready to let it go. So here’s our (hopeful) plan. 🙂

Every Day: at least 1 hour of just us time. This should be simple to continue. Even in our crazy busy times, we still made this happen.

Every Week: at least 1 date night. This is what we’ve always tried to do, but it can be easy to sacrifice this night when things come up. We are going to try to prevent losing this night by not filling up every single night of the week.

Every Month: at least 1 full day with no responsibilities or house projects – just fun together. I think this will be the hardest one because these days we will most likely still be here in Memphis and I know how hard it is for us to have free time on our hands and not fill it with house projects (which we love!). We just really need time for fun as well.

Every Quarter: at least 1 weekend together. This actually tends to happen anyway because we travel so much, but we want to make sure that we are intentionally spending at least 4 weekends a year with no responsibilities. We’d like for these weekends to be trips every time because it’s easier to not worry about the to-do list when we’re not home, but if for whatever reason we can’t travel every quarter, we’ll be sure to take a weekend at home for just us.

Every Year: at least 1 week-long trip together. This is another one that should be easy for us simply because we always take a trip for our anniversary every year.

Every Other Year: 30 days together. Last week someone mentioned how great it will be to look back on these 30 days someday. And it made me realize that I don’t want this to be a one time only thing. Christopher and I talked about it and decided that this break would have been so beneficial a couple of years ago when we were facing burnout with a ministry we were involved with. So we decided that we should make it happen at least every other year (and if it happens more than that, then that’s totally okay!)

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So where do future kids fit into all of this? Well, during future 30 day periods, our kids will be involved in that. I don’t know how practical it will be to continue doing this with teenagers in the house (with multiple busy schedules), but it’s a culture that we want to begin in our family. That we take sabbaticals. A time of rest. A time to be restored. A time away from the busy-ness of life. So this may only continue while we have small kids in the home or it might be something we can continue even as our kids grow up. I don’t know for sure. I just know that this is where we are now. We need to be better about self care and we want to raise our kiddos in an environment where they see that.

As for the rest of it, that’s all us time only. So those date nights and weekends away… just for us. Even after we have kids. I’m not saying that we’ll leave our 2 week old at home while we go on a week long vacation – obviously there will be exceptions, but this is the culture we want to build in our family… before we even have kids. We want our kids to grow up seeing an example of parents who prioritize and care for each other and our marriage. And of course, we’d like to take family vacations as well. So as long as we are able to take a week for just us and a week with the family, we will. If that’s not possible, we can cross that bridge when we get there. This is just the plan for now to help build this culture in our marriage and family. 🙂

This was a big reason that we wanted to take these 30 days. Yes, we needed a break from life, but we also needed to figure out how to make “us” a priority. If we’re bad about filling up our schedule now, then we’re afraid that when we have kids, we will just stay with the status quo and not make time for only us.

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I make it sound like we never spend time together. We really do. Like I said before, we’re together all the time. We are just together all the time while doing something else. Not a lot of time just to relax or play together. So we’re making strides to correct that. 🙂

I know this was forever long so thanks for sticking with me. People have been asking about how our 30 days has been and I thought this was a good start to answering that question. 🙂 Coming up soon, NYC recap!

 Love Rach